Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Toosdae ?'s

My 2nd night alone was a little bit easier and not as lonely, but I'm still feeling melancholy. The dreams continue and I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to about them (please don't be offended, my good friends reading this. I just feel as though I've exhausted your patience on this subject!). I asked a good friend today if he knows of a way to "deprogram" my brain. He only suggested meditation but I don't think this is the answer. Do any of you know of any techniques I can use to either deprogram or reprogram my brain? I know I'm being vague, but there is good reason...

And now, to lighten the mood a little, please answer this weeks questions:

1. Do you enjoy rainy days or snowy days better?

2. If you had to recommend one book to someone, what would it be and why?

3. What do you miss most about childhood?



1. I actually like both very much, unless they prevent me from doing something that was planned (or if it rains for an entire month like it did last year). If I have to choose though, I'd say snowy days. There's nothing better than looking outside and looking at the clean, glistening snow.

2. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith because it's a wonderfully sad but triumphant story about a girl who grew up knowing too much yet not enough and somehow realizes the life goes on no matter what. It's a story I could relate to on a very personal level, specifically because the father is an alcoholic.

3. Time. I miss the fact that I had a clean slate and many, many possibilities and what seemed like an endless amount of time to do those things.

10 comments:

G.W. said...

I think I read a quote somewhere that says "time heals all wounds". Stay strong, it will get better.

and now for the lighter side:
1. I like hot summer days when it rains. I do like looking at big fluffy snow flakes falling, but I have a long driveway and no snowblower so now snow just means 4 hours of shoveling is in store for me.

2. My all time favorite book is "To Kill a Mockingbird". I would tell anyone that hasn't read it, to read it right away. But, the book I have been recommending to people is "Dawn Patrol" by Don Winslow. I laughed, sped through pages, and cried. He paints pictures with his words and it blew me away....but since you said one book it would be "To Kill a Mockingbird"

3. Childhood thing I miss the most....playing. I would be outside playing all day. Sports, tag, hide and seek, everything. Unlimited energy and no worries.

"Lois Grebowski" said...

1. I like both... Great for snuggling on a weekend day with a bowl of popcorn and some good movies.

2. I've read so many books... I'd have to say the one I'm currently reading is the best book. It's really speaking to me. Keeping the Feast by Paula Butturini. It's really hitting home with me.

3. I miss the innocence

Thomas said...

I think the writings of Byron Katie might help you.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Byron_Katie

According to Katie, for nearly a decade she spiraled down into paranoia, rage, self-loathing, and constant thoughts of suicide; for the last two years she was often unable to leave her bedroom. Then, one morning, while in a halfway house for women, she experienced a life-changing realization. She called it “waking up to reality.” In that moment of enlightenment, she says,

"I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment."

Byron Katie's method of self-inquiry, called The Work, is based on four questions and a process called a "turnaround".

The four questions are:

1.Is it true?
2.Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3.How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4.Who would you be without the thought?

katherine. said...

I dream about what is going on in my life, good or bad...I nightmare when I see a scary movie or a car accident...et cetera. Everyone's subconscious is different. Hope you find some process that brings you peaceful slumber.

1. Snow days for sure. Snow days for me happen on vacation usually. Tahoe or Indiana. Once every five years or so Santa Cruz will get a quick dusting and everyone runs outside and its all fun.

Shibumi. Lots of reasons too personal and complicated.

Bill.

flipper said...

Let me know if u ever find the cure!
1) def depends on if I have plans. If im snuggles in bed sometimes I like to hear the rain. If its sledding snow thats always fun too. But breezy sunny days cant be beat
2) 5 people you meet in heaven
3) Less to worry about and ocd wasnt as bad

kat said...

1) Even though I am sick of them by now I'd have to say snowy days simply because there is nothing like seeing everything covered by a snowy white blanket - and everything is so calm and peaceful.

2) The Funniest Thing You Never Said

3) Not having a care in the world

Linda said...

The only thing that I can suggest that will work is time. It really does seem to heal all wound even though it's sometimes nowhere near as fast as we'd like. Each day it will get a little better, though, even on the days when it seems like you backslide a little bit. Honest!

1. I would say snowy days as long as I don't have to go to work and can not worry about shoveling. There's a lot to be said for a warm spring rain, too!

2. "The Five People You Meet in Heaven". I just loved that book to pieces - there are a lot of good life lessons in it.

3. Not having to worry about keeping the lights on, food in the cupboard, or making the car payment!

Bond said...

How about some hot chocolate before bed...or a stiff drink?

1) Sun actually, but given the choices you stated: Snow

2)Any of the Brad Thor books, if oyu like action and adventure

3) Not having to work!

Mags said...

GW: I love it when you de-lurke. :) My all time favorite book is also To Kill a Mockingbird. It was a tossup between the two books and I thought I'd pick the one I haven't talked about before.

Lois: I've heard stories of when you were younger...they must have been "post innocence" stories. LOL ;)

Thomas: Thanks. I will check it out. The thing is, I just want to stop thinking about something that happened.

Katherine: Thank you...I'm really curious in the book you suggested. I'm going to google it now.

Lash: I think maybe hypnosis...and also, I didn't know you read that book. I love it too.

Kat: I'm going to read that book!!

Linda: Time. Yes...stupid time. I'm ready NOW!!!!

Bond: A stiff drink might do the trick actually! I do like action/adventure books-I'll check him out.

Wow-I have a few great suggestion for books...that was my secret goal. :)

Travis said...

1. I prefer snowy days because I can stay home.

2. I'm very careful about recommending books to people because my tastes may not be theirs. One book I do feel comfortable recommending is A People's History of the United States, by Howard Zinn.

3. Being carefree.

As to the reprogramming thing, sometimes it just helps to write things out when they keep your mind working.