There was a boy in high school who was a friend but not a friend. Do you know what I mean? We weren't in the same "crowd" as each other (looking back, I don't think either of us really even had a crowd) but we shared a few classes and our last names both started with a "D" so we ended up sitting next to each other a lot of times.
I don't remember any specific conversations or heart to hearts. What I do remember is that he teased me a lot and that we made each other laugh. I think that was something we both needed. He came to my house a few times for parties and bon fires, and to swim in our pool but it was always with other people-he wouldn't have come over alone.
I had a pair of tights that I loved. The were maroon and had striped running up and down my leg, so they were vertical. It was the early 90's people, they rocked. I had a specific outfit I wore them with and when I wore them, I felt really cool and pretty.
He hated them, and teased me every time I wore them.
I never was hurt by his teasing because I knew that he wasn't being mean-he was just teasing a friend about a pair of tights that she loved even though they were hideous.
At graduation, we sat next to each other (again with the D's) and right before we were about to walk on stage, he turned to me and hugged me very tightly telling me he'd miss me very much. I knew we wouldn't keep in touch-we weren't those kind of friends. I would miss him too.
Today, he friended me on facebook! Because I am unemployed and therefore near the computer a whole lot more, I was able to write back to him while he was still at the computer. A few emails in, I told him that I remember him teasing me about the tights to which he promptly wrote back, "I remember them too. They were hideous!" He did go on to say that he admired me for wearing them because they were so ugly. (They weren't that bad.) After a few more emails, he wrote this, a "tights" haiku:
Oh, how terrible
evil, hideous...stripes on
tights of eye-gouging
He still makes me smile. Happily, he also lives in Boston and 2 cool things happened: 1. He is looking into his company to see if they are hiring and 2. We are going to meet for lunch sometime next week! So super exciting! I'm just a tad self conscious because I've gained so much weight since then. But, I am who I am.
And because I know at least 3 of you are thinking it and will probably ask me, he is married. :) How exciting is it to reconnect with a friend-who I actually liked?!?!
8 comments:
That's awesome, Mags! Don't worry about your weight; you're right: you are who you are, and your inner beauty stays with you always, no matter if your weight is up or down. For all you know he's worried about the same thing anyway. That will all melt away when you meet for lunch.
xoxo
Have fun and just enjoy yourself, mags! Hope he's got a job for you! :)
Oh, that's exciting! Perhaps very good things will come out of your old friendship.
Don't you love Facebook for that very reason!!! Anyway,my mom got her lemon cake and she LOVED LOVED LOVED IT! Thank you, and keep up your great work!
What a great story with an even greater ending! I think it's so cool that you two have hooked up and are going to meet for lunch! I was just telling my friend Cyndi the other day that I've not met anyone at all from my past on Facebook but it would be cool if I did. You are living proof that it does happen and good things come of it!
I hope he makes you laugh and smile and forget the things that are weighing heavily on your mind when you get together and who knows? Perhaps this is the start of a great renewed friendship (his wife could be uber cool, too!).
Facebook is a very interesting animal.
It be hilarious if you could track down a pair of tights similar to those and wear them to lunch.
Good for you! Reconnecting like that can be a good experience. And it gives you one more person you know in Boston.
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