Wednesday, January 30, 2008



She tries to sleep, but she can’t-the noises coming from the only bedroom in the trailer are too loud, too embarrassing. Rolling over she faces the wall and hopes that her father will finish what he’s doing and that her step-mother won’t make any more noise.

She’s living every teenage girl’s nightmare.

It’s bad enough that she was torn from her friends in Kentucky-but living here, in this cramped, dirty trailer with no privacy and no indoor shower is the icing on the cake. Fitting in at school was out of the question-her father made sure of that by not allowing her to socialize outside of class & eventually, she woke up one morning knowing that she would no longer walk the halls of freedom, but instead would be taught in the very trailer she slept in.

It’s probably for the best, she thinks-if anyone ever found out that they make me wear hand me down underwear I’d be the laughing stock of the state anyway…

She wishes she could move home-to her real home-with her mother and sister in Connecticut. There she would be nurtured and cared for, and allowed to be a teenager…allowed to have opinions and ideas and to cut her hair the way she likes it.

But she knows she can’t. He’s making sure of that too…

Jamie wants to come home.

Many of you know Linda from Are We There Yet? And perhaps you know that she has two daughters, Amanda and Jamie. Amanda lives with Linda here in CT and Jamie lives in Florida with her father and his wife.

Life for Jamie is not going well.

Jamie is living a lonely life in a cramped, dirty trailer with guardians who won’t allow her to be an individual. She is not allowed to have friends. She can’t choose her own music or movies and she can’t even cut her hair. She has to shower in a common area of a camp ground because her “home” doesn’t have a shower.

She is homeschooled by her stepmother-a woman who is not qualified to take on such a task and Jamie is, for sure, behind other kids her age academically. No doubt, she will also fall behind socially as well.

Though Jamie has expressed to her father that she wants to move to Connecticut to live with her mother, he will not allow it. His reasoning is that Linda is not a good mother.

His reasoning is bull shit.

When Jamie visits, it is easy to see that she flourishes. Her smile is bright and it’s clear that being allowed to smile and laugh and to be a little quirky is the reason. Anyone who reads Linda’s blog knows that she is a caring and attentive mother who strives to give both of her children what they deserve.

The man that Jamie and Amanda call Dad is not a good man. He remarried and is completely wrapped up in his new marriage and does not care what happens to Jamie. If he believes that Linda is a bad mother because Amanda has blue hair, then I wonder what he would say if she were to cast her daughter out of her life simply because she was a little different…

Of course, Linda would never do that-but he did. Amanda lived with her father at one time, and was sent back to live with Linda because she didn’t “fit in” to the family he wanted to create. He no longer speaks to her. Now tell me, how can a man who disowns one daughter ever be a better parent than one who loves unconditionally?

He can’t.

And that’s why Jamie needs to come home.

Being a single mother who makes “too much money” (read: she makes over the poverty level) Linda does not qualify for financial assistance for legal aid, and therefore is having trouble getting a lawyer’s attention. In CT, courts consider a custody award as subject to change until the child involved grows up, and in most states proof of a "change in circumstances" may overturn an earlier award. This flexibility is intended to allow for the correction of poor or outdated decisions.

Jamie has vocalized to both parents that she wishes to move. Her dad has vocalized that it will never happen. Linda made a promise to Jamie that she would do anything in her power to get here home.

But she needs our help.

On my sidebar I have posted a magic button-this magic button allows you to donate to the Get Jamie Home Legal Fund. The faster you click, the faster you will help change the life of one little girl who very much needs a new life.

Please help. We’ve seen in the past that every penny helps…even if you can only donate $5, please consider doing it.

Jamie needs to come home.
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Brian in Mpls said...

I suppose I should learn to read things in order..

Colette said...

Mags, what an awesome cause. I know Linda is a blogger friend, and I think it's awesome you're trying to help her out. I hope that enough donate to help her out! I know what it's like to "make too much money" and not have access to the system programs, but not be able to afford certain things such as legal assistance. Good luck with the fundraising!

Mo said...

Even though I'm in the poor house myself, since your donations are set up to take PayPal, I sent my donation.

If I can, everyone can!
Send in your donation today, people!

Hey it's Amy Shipp said...

Wow what a story! sad....

crazy working mom said...

Great job, Mags!

I know that once Linda gets all of this evidence in order she'll get Jamie home, hands down. I just know it.

Marilyn said...

Divorce is so hard on the kids. As frustrated as I get with my ex, I am very greatful that we can still have a real conversation about what is best for Jasmine. Pulling a kid out of the public schools at such a late stage can be tramatic. Makes me wonder what his (or his wife's) reasoning is.

The high school kids I know of in this situation are at home because they want to be. Anyway, folks like that are making it had for anybody to homeschool.

I'll see what I can scrape together but it'll have to wait a couple of weeks.

Robin Lee Sardini said...

This is such a good post for a very worthy cause! No child should have to endure this kind of subjugation (read: abuse)!
I'm happy to donate! Consider it done.

Linda said...


I sent you an email but I wanted to publicly say how very much I appreciate what you are doing here by getting Jamie's story out and if I had my way this story would be at the top of every Google search possible as it is so well written and obviously came from your heart.

You are a true friend and an excellent writer and I am honored to know you!

Love (lots of love!),

Robin Lee Sardini said...

Hi Maggie,
I reprinted your post on my blog with links to you.

the teach said...

Mags, I'm putting up the post and I donated. I hope it can help bring her home! :)

Colette, aka Lil Sis said...

I couldn't repost the pics, but I did repost the story! I'm not sure if any others check my blog other than our group, but I reposted and donated anyway! Good luck to you and Linda! Keep us updated!

Sanni said...

I´ll put up the post and I donated as much as I can afford - I wish I could do more...

Good luck,

Amazing Gracie said...

Mags - you are an angel with wings of fire! You have undertaken a very worthy cause and have done so well in expressing the horror Jamie lives with every day.
Let's get her home!!!

Jamie said...

Linda is one of my favorite folks on the planet and you are wonderful to help her. Donation done and I'm trying to find some free family law advice for her.

Adam R said...

I work with someone whose freind is in a very similar situation. I feel for this cause and i think what you're doing is great!

This is Brutal Insanity showing its support!

Kai said...

I'm totally behind on all this, but just clicked through and donated. I love Miss Linda to death.

For all those people who hate pay per post ads.... this is where some of the $$ I made from it went.

katherine. said...

well damn. heading over to Linda's site now...

I loved kai's comment about how she has used some of her paid post income for this very worthy cause.

Patti said...

Mags, You are a true friend to Linda.
I just copied and pasted the info from Mimi's sidebar onto my sidebar.

I hope I can help financially soon.

peppylady said...

Thank you for posting this. I live in North Idaho and there are but not all.
I know people who claims they are home schooling there children and I honestly don't see where there children are being educated "A form of child abuse"
At one my hubby and I was very poor and we're still no Rockfellow.
We live with out no power or running water but we mange to keep things clean.
My boys went to public school in clean clothes, did well academically, and socially.
Plus they shared a bed room and had bunk beds.
No people sometime can't help there wealth they may or maynot have but there a different in being low income or poverty.
One choose to live in poverty by being messy and those who are low income doesn't live in a mess.

ciara said...

i came via akelamalu's....this post just made me madder than hell. i couldn't donate a whole lot, but i made my contribution. if i can donate more later, i will.