I wouldn't consider myself to be a shallow person. Though I believe in gut instincts, I typically give people the benefit of the doubt, and typically grant trust before I should.
You're overweight? I don't care...
Short? No problem!
Bald...er, um...let's skip that one...
You get the point. On a daily basis I don't scan my peripheral and steer clear of people who do not fit into the "perfect" mold. In fact, I often love knowing the weirdo's, the freaks, or the deviants.
But this weekend I was thrown for a loop. It made me think about the boundaries we all have-the farthest acceptable point we will go to before we say, "I'm done" or "I can't do that". And I wondered where mine were, and how capable I am of moving them.
And, does that barrier even really exist?
I don't know the answer to my own questions. My reaction is to run-to stay away, close down, and make up some excuse as to why it didn't work. But if I do that, I will forever be stuck in the reality that has become my life, and barriers will never be broken.
And so though it may be a little bit uncomfortable, I will remain.
I fully recognize that only 1 of you knows what the hell I am talking about. And that's ok. In fact, I like it better that way. My point is this:
By defining our barriers, our breaking points, we are essentially stopping ourselves before we even make it that far. We're killing our chances, curbing our successes and growing roots where there isn't enough water.