Friday, September 19, 2014

Baby Wearing

Over the last couple of weeks we've been working on finding the best baby gear to add to our (not yet finished) baby registries.  It's so hard to know who's opinion to trust and what will work for us.  It's even harder to try to figure out which gear will work for us on the boat, with twins.  Luckily, there happens to be a blogging family who lives on a sailboat...with twins.  For the most part I've taken a lot of cues from the Mom and it's helped, but there are still quite a few things we're trying to navigate through.  Baby wearing is one of them.

My choices are plentiful.  I have ring slings (which I've chosen) and Moby wraps (also chosen for when they're newborn's) and hammocks (a little weird).  They come in pretty colors and patterns and seem to be very popular.  I'll be able to crisscross the babies on each shoulder with the ring slings, making it easier to carry them both at one time.

But for men, these options don't always seem to be appealing.  Mainly, I think, because the slings look pretty feminine.  I think B1 may break down and wear the Moby wrap though because it's the only way we'll have to carry both infants hands free until they can hold up their own heads.  99% of the backpack type carriers, which men seems to gravitate toward (from what I can see), only carry singletons.  We did find one, however, which seems like it'll work well called TwinTrexx.  It looks pretty versatile and gender neutral, and B1 seems to like it, so there's that.

Earlier today I emailed him to ask him if he made a decision on which baby carrier he wants...This is what you get when you have a silly husband:

Yep.  He's alllll mine ladies.  ;) 

Needless to say, we'll be getting the TwinTrexx...

Monday, September 15, 2014

2 Years

2 years ago yesterday B1 and I were married, on a warm, sunny day at the beach.  It was absolutely perfect in every way and I wish I could go and relive it.

2 years ago yesterday I looked like this:

Yesterday B1 and I had a perfect day.  We slept in, had breakfast, went apple picking (and got pumpkins and hot apple cider donuts), and had dinner at Top of the Hub.  I felt great almost all day and the sun, once again, was shining.

Yesterday, I looked like this:

B1 and I have grown over the last 2 years.

I've grown over the last 4 months.

The best is yet to come.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Plus Size Maternity Clothing really difficult to find.

In general, I think that plus sized women have a harder time finding classy, affordable clothing than "normal" sized girls.  In my area, there are only two plus size fashion stores.  One has slightly trashy styles and isn't of good quality and the other is very expensive.  99% of the time I end up buying clothing online.  Which becomes frustrating and expensive because of how often I have to return the item due to it not fitting correctly.

Now imagine how hard it is to find clothing for a plus sized women when her belly is growing every day.  Yup, it's hard.  NO ONE sells plus size maternity clothing in the stores.  No least not in my state.  Literally every piece of maternity clothing I own now was purchased online from one of two stores (different than the ones mentioned above).  One of them is a well-known department store with good prices, but their sizing is completely off.  I bought a skirt the other day online which fit, but was a little snug in my belly (even with the built in belly band).  Being proactive, I returned it and order the next larger size...which was SMALLER than the smaller size.  Needless to say, I am frustrated at the additional $18 I paid to send both skirts back.  So much for good prices.  The other store is a well known maternity store with good quality clothing and good sizing, but their prices are ridiculously high.  I hear they have good sales, but truthfully, I haven't seen them yet...

So, I've become an obsessed pregnant woman in search of very specific items to complete my fall/winter wardrobe.  It's very difficult to plan, though, because I don't know exactly how big I'm going to get.  I'm guessing pretty huge (B1 agrees-he actually searched for pictures of twin pregnancy to see how big women get!), considering there are two and my belly is already ballooning.  In any case, I spend a lot of time on Google searching for plus size maternity dress pants.  Or jeans.  Or dresses.  Or most recently, winter coats (came up with a great option, but soon realized they don't deliver to the US!)...most of the time I end up purchasing larger sizes of regular plus size clothes.  For instance, all of my new sweaters are a size larger than I would normally wear, except for the open cardigans which aren't meant to close anyway.  The winter coat I ended up buying is a swing coat by design, which gives more room anyway, and was purchased 4 sizes larger (yes, 4 sizes-remember there will be TWO babies growing underneath!). 

This is also making for a lot of deliveries to the boat.  It feels like Christmas almost everyday!  As of today, I am waiting for:

  • A fluffy purple robe, because my current monogrammed fluffy robe won't fit this winter, and it's an essential part of me keeping warm at night on the boat.
  • Black dress pants, because, well, work.  And only 1 pair, because I wear dresses 99.9% of my life.
  • A plus size belly band.  Because of round ligament pain and also, they say I'll need it to support my back later on.
  • One pretty teal shirt that I can dress up or down.
  • One navy blue and white striped dress, that I hope is thick enough so I can wear it through the winter, with a sweater and tights.
  • A pretty yellow sweater that I plan on wearing with the navy dress, a black maxi dress or jeans.
I'm also really hoping that I win an Ebay auction for a purple and black dress that I could possibly wear to my baby shower (which hasn't yet been planned, but I'm a planner, as we all know!)

I love shopping, but this is actually quite exhausting.  I imagine that if I had one or two stores that I could walk into and try things on that it would be a lot more fun.  Now, I spend hours scouring the internet looking for secret places and good deals.  And I'm spending a lot of money on shipping.  I suppose it's worth it, though, to have clothes that fit and that make me feel good.

Here's a look at some of the pieces I've either acquired, or hope to in the near future:

Now let's just hope that they'll all grow with me!  February's still a loooong way away!

Wednesday, September 03, 2014

16 Weeks: Check In

How far along: 16 Weeks

Total weight gain: 3.2 pounds

Maternity clothes: Yes, and I am actively looking for more fall/winter clothes as we speak.

Sleep:  Usually about 8 hours.  I wish I could get 10.

Best moment of this week: Realizing the glucose test liquid wasn’t as horrible as everyone said it was.

Miss anything: Not worrying about every little thing that happens to me.

Size of babies: Avocados!
16 Weeks
Food cravings/aversions: Sadly, no.  Though I just found out I failed my 1 hour test, and have to take the 3 hour on Friday.  So if it ends up being that I have GD, then having no cravings will be a very good thing.

Anything making you queasy or sick: Less and less, thankfully.  I still have some aversions that pop up randomly and some smelly things still put me off, but I think I’m getting over this hump. (I just jinxed it!)

Have you started to show yet: Yes! I have a very pronounced “B” belly.  I wish it were cute and round like everyone else’s, but it’s mine and it’s growing!

Gender: I heard their little heartbeats yesterday and if old wives tales are valid, then we’re having two girls!

Labor signs: Thank God, no.

Belly button in or out: In!

Wedding rings on or off: On, but every now and then I have to take them off for a couple of hours to let the swelling go down.

Happy or moody most of the time: Up and down…

Looking forward to: Finding out if I have GD or not.  I take the 3 hour test on Friday morning.  I’m not really looking forward to this, per se, but I am looking forward to not having to worry about whether or not I have it.  Knowing is half the battle.

Friday, August 22, 2014

14 Weeks: Check In

How far along: 14 weeks, 2 days

Total weight gain: Last time it was 4 pounds, I'm sure it's more now.  My belly has gotten bigger in the last week.

Maternity clothes: Today I am officially wearing Mom jeans...or maternity jeans to be more specific.  And they are COMFY!

Sleep:  Usually about 8 hours.  I wish I could get 10.

Best moment of this week: Not a specific moment, but I'm thankful that my morning sickness is getting a little better.  Oh!  I did get to have dinner with an old friend who is due in November, so I got to chat about babies all night long!

Miss anything: Nothing really.  I'm still not jazzed about food yet.

Size of babies: Lemons

Food cravings/aversions: No real cravings yet.  I still have many aversions.  Things I used to love eating no longer taste amazing to me.

Anything making you queasy or sick: I get queasy or sick every  morning still.  Sometimes just thinking about something gross makes me start gagging, even if it's not right in front of me.  That said, I am no longer sick all day like I was for the first 12 weeks, and I'm taking that as an encouraging sign that this stage is almost past me.

Have you started to show yet: Yes! I feel my belly growing by the day.

Gender: No idea.  I saw two twin boys today at the coffee shop though and wondered how the heck we'll be able to handle it if they're both boys! :)

Labor signs: Thank God, no.

Belly button in or out: In!

Wedding rings on or off: On

Happy or moody most of the time: Moody this week.

Looking forward to: My next appointment with the midwife on 9/2, and my nephew's birthday party tomorrow.

Monday, August 18, 2014

To my regular readers, or those of you who just stumbled upon my blog, please ignore this message and read the posts below this one.

This is a message someone I asked not to contact me again.  You know who you are.  Stop reading this blog.  Do not ever contact me again.  If you do contact me, I will contact the police and tell them that you are harassing me and have been for almost 10 years.  You are right, I did block you from Facebook and I'm not sure how you got through recently.  If it happens again, the police will know about that too.

If I see you coming to this blog again, I will shut it down.  And that will be very heartbreaking for me because I've had it for almost 10 years.  So please, just move on and leave me alone.

Dear Wine

I miss you.  That is all.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

13 Weeks

Tomorrow I'll be 13 weeks pregnant which will officially bring me into my 2nd trimester.  Already.  It's crazy how time has flown by.  And truthfully, even though I have morning sickness and my belly is growing (and I no longer fit into most of my clothes) it's still so unbelievable.

From 7-9 weeks I was taking pictures of my belly.  But because it was so early, there really wasn't a change.  At week 9 there was a little change, but even still, it was little.  However, over the last couple of weeks my belly has really popped and can visibly be seen by anyone who knows me.

I say that because I'm a plus size girl, and so my belly is never completely flat.  And to outsiders, I probably just look fatter than normal.  Which kinds of stinks, but you know what?  I don't care.  My babies are in there and that's the reason I'm growing.  And I'm so happy that it's begun.  Here is my week 13 picture:

It's amazing what pregnancy has done for my body image already.  Last week when we were taking our announcement photos, I noticed myself subconsciously trying to suck in my belly when the photos were about to be shot.  When I realized this, I remembered that my belly, for one thing, can't be sucked in anymore, but also that it is growing because of babies.  And it's now acceptable in societies eyes for me to have a belly. And I felt better about it then.

Which is sad.  Why aren't I-and thousands of other beautiful plus sized women-allowed to feel beautiful when we are without child?  And more importantly, why do I allow society to dictate how I feel about myself?  I really hope that I can remember this wisdom in a year.